If you are a fan of Billie Eilish, you definitely encountered until now the term “Oxytocin” the title of one of her best songs. But did you consider its meaning? You probably guessed already. Oxytocin is the love hormone. The primary love language is the one you speak, and your personality is based on when creating and maintaining relationships.
When triggered, our brain releases the hormone oxytocin into our bloodstream. The easiest way of getting oxytocin is by a simple hug. But what is the case in which you don’t get any of the physical touch? You could get into touch starvation from skin hunger! Yes, that is real. Keep reading to find out the correlation between touch starvation and love language. It is not just you who could get starved of touching, but even children who don’t get enough physical touch could dangerously suffer.
“Research has shown that infants who are not cuddled, nuzzled, and held consistently can stop growing and form other developmental issues that last well into their adult lives.”
You may be wondering why. Well, our skin is the largest organ of our bodies, and as infants, one of the first things that make us feel. Are you touch starved? Let’s find out.
Here are the signs your body may give you if you are touch deprived. Do you recognise any of these below?
Overwhelming emotions like sadness, anxiety
Isolation from social activities
Alcohol or drug abuse
Intense dissatisfaction with your relationships
If you have any of these, your primary love language could be Physical Touch.
Primary love language
Acts of service, quality time, gifts or words of affirmation are all love languages. Why is it important to know your primary one? Once you know which one it is, you will learn how to express your feelings towards your relationship and to remain assertive, knowing what to ask for from your partner.
The effects of touch starvation are precisely the opposite of getting oxytocin. Your body starts releasing cortisol, which is known as the stress hormone. For this reason, you may feel "on edge," as if you are stressed out constantly.
In a romantic relationship, acknowledging the love languages of both partners makes the relationship work at its best. This way, both partners feel appreciated enough, thinking they are loved in the right way and feel protected.
If you want to improve your relationship and learn how to love your partner, or you're just curious about your primary love language, you can complete an exciting quiz to find out for FREE. If physical touch is your primary love language then simple acts of touch such as a hug could do your physical and mental health wonders.